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New Year resolutions and why they do not work

By Sanchia Aronberg
Thursday, January 3, 2019

The facts of New Year resolutions

Can you relate to this?

New Year's Resolutions

New Year resolutions are a tradition, most common in the Western Hemisphere but also found in the Eastern Hemisphere, in which a person resolves to change an undesired trait or behaviour, to accomplish a personal goal or otherwise improve their life. The most common resolutions are around health, wealth and wellbeing.

As a new year begins there are all sorts of emotions, it differs from person to person. Excitement, anticipation, fear, joy, worry and feelings of unfinished business from the previous year.

What emotions do you have at the start of the year?

It is a big statement saying resolutions don’t work and I am definitely not judging you if you set them each year and if they work for you. For most (80% of resolutions fail by Feb unfortunately) they don’t and here are some of the reasons for resolutions not working:

  • We try to do too much too quickly: go on, be honest. Have you got that big long list of goals? Have you got a similar picture to the one above? Is January and perhaps February filled with the hope of change and resolutions around health, wealth and happiness?
  • Unrealistic goals: anything is possible, I truly believe that and big courageous goals are motivating however it is useful to break down big goals and start on the small baby steps.
  • We get bored, unmotivated or it becomes too hard: as above, if the goal is unrealistic then the time it takes to achieve the goal can be frustrating and you become bored, despondent or it is too hard. Again, break the goal into bite sized chunks to keep you going.
  • Little or no consistency: wouldn’t it be great if things were more immediate? With most resolutions it takes time, consistency and hard work. It takes consistency
  • No passion or feeling attached to the goal: have you ever wanted something but you don’t really care or not passionate about it? I have coached a number of people who want something but not particularly motivated by the goal. If you are aware of what you want and why then this will make the goal a lot more achievable.
  • No accountability: it is scientifically proven that having a buddy to help you along the way helps so step 1: go out and tell someone about your goals.

 

Have you ever thought about why your New Year resolutions don’t work out? I’d love to know your thoughts!

 

A solution:

Change just one of your habits that create the most change. It’s always the small steps that are practised consistently that lead to big changes. The magic always comes from taking action. Not only talking about it, not hoping for it, but by just doing it.

So, write that big long list of hopes and dreams. What is the one that leaps out at you? What is the one thing that is going to make your heart soar? What is the one that is going to create the most change in your life, right now? Start there and then once that new habit is formed you can start on the next one and then the next one and then the next one.

365 new days. 365 new chances. Happy New Year!

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